Tuesday, September 27, 2005

You cannot be ignored, You cannot be denied




HAVE you not heard those words "I have been rejected and ignored so many times, I no longer want to be humiliated anymore!" Well, let me give you some unsolicited advice: you as an individual cannot be denied, ignored or rejected.
That's because you are as unique as a fingerprint, your teeth-marks and your DNA. If you want to be heard, then you must find the best possible avenue in communicating your needs or wants.
Many have been ignored and rejected because they do not adopt the right approach. For example, if you feel strongly that an employee of a supermarket has been rude to you and should be reported to her/his superior, then what you need to do is to lodge a written or vocal complaint to the relevant people.
In cases of seeking justice, the recourse must be detailed and complete. Higher-ups normally don't entertain complaints if it comes from people who refuse to identify themselves, leave no permanent address and let out all the important details of the alleged incident.
If you want to tell someone something important then you will have to supply ample information on the incident. If you feel that some official at some government department has been found grossly negligent in his official duties, you can exercise your right as a tax-paying citizen by complaining to the higher authorities, probably a carbon-copy to several consumer associations, detailing the incident, name of officer, the place where it took place and if there were any other witnesses or maybe you have kept some tangible evidence linking that incident and your complaint.
This "can't be ignored" personal philosophy also works the other way. If you find someone worthy of receiving compliments from a satisfied customer or as a citizen, feel free to put it in writing and pass it on to his superior. Again, detailing the incident and the identity of that hardworking and honest person.
You really have nothing to gain from this but that person whom you have just praised may include you in her prayers that very night itself before she retires for the night.
This is how our world evolves. A good deed goes around, comes around. A bad deed if allowed to fester, continues to affect others, especially the innocent.
On the other end of the spectrum, say you are a struggling writer and you think you have written some fantastic stuff and somewhere in this wide world, some publisher should give you due recognition, then you mustn't lose faith in yourself.
This is this English writer called John Creasey. Before he become famous and successful, he received about 743 rejection slips. Now if you even received half of that number of rejection slips, don't make a fuss over it. Keep on trying. In the end, you cannot be denied, you cannot be rejected and you simply don't want to be rejected.
Never, never, never ever give up.

No comments: